Hair on Fire?

Posted February 24, 2019 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change

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By Robert C. Thames, Founder of Pathways to Transformation

Were you able to extinguish this over the recent holidays? Or is it still smoldering–just waiting to reignite?  With goal setting and catching your breath throughout January, are some of those old habits reappearing in February?

It seems like the older I get, the more distasteful this experience becomes. How many times must I learn this lesson? It’s certainly still something I am battling. In the heat of the moment, we tend to forget the destructive outcomes of this lack of strategic discipline. While we may instinctually think this practice is beneficial in meeting deadlines, and checking tasks off the ever-expanding to-do list, living this way can actually be harmful.

Stress can cause the hypothalamus region of our brain to signal our adrenal glands to secrete five primary hormones into our bloodstream, and their effects can be beneficial or detrimental.

  1. Adrenaline, the “fight or flight” hormone, can be beneficial to a point. It can be critical in a survival situation by increasing your heart rate, physical strength, body temperature and breathing.  Blood flow is redirected to your heart, lungs, and muscles.  Energy is increased due to extra glucose in the bloodstream, vision is sharpened, and one is more alert and aware.  However, overreacting to stress can produce high levels of adrenaline that can weaken the immune system, create restlessness and anxiety, poor sleep and insomnia, ulcers, weight gain, andweight gain, and strain on the heart.
  2. Cortisol contributes to the increase of blood sugar and enhances the use of it by our brain, along with other substances that repair tissue damage. It suppresses organs deemed non-essential in a stressful situation, altering immune system responses and the digestive system.  In excess, it has some of the same detrimental effects on the body as adrenaline, as well as impairing memory and concentration. It facilitates inflammation.
  3. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that can trigger excitement and feelings of well- being from achievement.  Low levels of dopamine can lead to depression, lack of motivation, and a feeling of helplessness.  Dysfunction of the dopamine system has also been linked to Parkinson’s Disease, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
  4. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that has a lot to do with regulating our moods and sense of well-being. Low levels of serotonin have similar effects as dopamine, including depression, autism, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and social anxiety disorder.  Like dopamine, an imbalance of this hormone can have negative effects on your sleep cycle.
  5. Oxytocin is a hormone that facilitates feelings of connection, calmness, love, nurturing, and healing. It can be the antidote to the overabundance and excesses of the hormones above.  It can feed perspectives of abundance and peace vs. scarcity and fear.  Medical research has often focused more on the first four hormones, and deeper understanding of the calm and connection system is needed.

Needless to say, there is a lot going on in your body when you find yourself in a hair- on-fire state!  The collective integration of these five hormones in the actions we take can have major positive and negative effects on our personal health and well-being.  The cumulative effects of too much or too little of these chemical messengers can wreck our health or fill us with sustaining energy.  While they are somewhat difficult to measure, I would submit that you know when they are surging because you can feel the change in your state of being by observing your intensity.

  • Operating with a hair-on-fire mindset tends to alienate anyone within proximity, often those we love most.  In our manic effort to get things done, we can damage and sever relationships with the very people who can help us.
  • Ultimately, this mindset has a tendency to create lower quality outcomes than we intend, as our approach is often a “mile wide and an inch deep”.  Focus is spotty and distracted, as we rush to create more achievement in smaller blocks of time.
  • Fear and self-limiting beliefs can replace confidence and courtesy in the rush to completion.

So…what’s the solution?  In the final analysis, you aren’t likely to get it all done anyway, so why not pause and pick the things that intersect with your passions and joy? Toxic messaging assaults our mindfulness daily. It influences our mindset and the very hormones flowing throughout our bloodstream. Are you weary of the highs and lows?   In an article for, Tara Healey of Harvard Pilgrim Health Care, suggests we learn to better separate our responses from our reactions.

A simple technique that I have learned in Vistage training is called STOP:

  • Stop…just stop.
  • Take a breath.
  • Observe…take a moment to sense what is going on in you and around you.
  • Proceed…with compassion and purpose.

This is a new practice for me, as I have been seeing the negative impacts of a hair-on-fire mindset for decades.  It’s time to change!

What about you?  What practices have helped in your experience?




The Hedge Perspective

Posted August 11, 2017 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change

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As you look at the beautiful greenery above, what strikes you? What is the purpose of these magnificent hedges? Is it to keep you from seeing or accessing what is behind them? Or, is it to keep you safely and securely on the path?

With the rampant division and political unrest in America at the moment, and social media acting as an accelerant, our ability to learn from multiple perspectives and each other are significantly limited. When our very values and assumptions are under continuous assault, automatic responses to challenges are often brutally quick and pointed. Our business culture tends to see things in silo’ed perspectives as well. This automatic response tends to be either/or, profit/loss, scarcity vs. abundance, us vs. them. These singular views produce a pretty toxic environment, and one that is pretty far away from collaborative.

Good leaders will slow the response time down enough to allow evaluation of multiple perspectives, rather than a single point of view that can create a collision of opposite opinions. Buddha’s teachings talked of a “middle way or path” to encourage a neutral, upright, and centered approach. Other religious traditions have also referred to a “middle way”. Stephen R. Covey* relates a story about Gandhi where he developed his nonviolent action approach as a result of humiliation and prejudice when he was in South Africa. He chose a third alternative instead of fight or retreat options. Covey calls this “The Third Alternative”—not my way, or your way, but our way.

Finally, good leaders will not hesitate to make a decision to move ahead with a singular perspective solution after dialogue about multiple approaches has run its course. Evaluating multiple perspectives does not have to result in a watered-down compromise, but can actually promote a synergy through collaborative efforts to blend the best pieces of all perspectives.

How often do you, as a leader, take the time to slow down the process and move toward a third alternative that maximizes synergy and reduces conflict? Do you value the hedges as a metaphor for keeping you upright and centered on the path?

I would welcome your perspective! Email me at:

Bob Thames

*Covey, Stephen R., The Eighth Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness, Free Press, div. of Simon & Schuster, New York, NY, 2004, p. 187.

My Three Words for 2017

Posted December 31, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change

ESSENTIALISM: After reading the book by the same name (by Greg McKeown), I want to be sure in this next year to focus on the 20% of things that truly matter.

ROUTINE: In order to focus only on the essential things, I must establish routine processes for getting the important things done, and having the discipline to execute on those processes. I will use my gTasks app daily to prioritize and keep a monthly log of the essential tasks and habits I say yes to, and a longer list of tasks and habits that I say no to.

CHOOSE: Establishing a routine to focus on only the essential things requires that I choose carefully among the many options presented to me.

Trust Your Talents

Posted December 21, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change


The greatest privilege in life is to discover and live as we were created to be.  Pathways to Transformation LLC helps individuals and teams in organizations discover their natural, authentic talents and facilitates a space for them to be accountable for actions to enhance their success. Too many people don’t know who they are; and are working way too hard to be a person someone else told them to be.  It is an incredible gift to feel validated and in synch with oneself.  Imagine a world where everyone understood their gifts and acted in alignment with them!

The genesis of this small business came from decades of trying to perform in various roles where from a strengths perspective, I was marginally qualified.  When I discovered that leveraging my talents produced superior results, I focused there, as opposed to working on weaknesses.  I was able to focus my efforts in those areas that truly matter, and step away from creating mediocre results in many areas.

Discovering our natural strengths and working in alignment with them creates a flow that is effortless and fulfilling.  Coaching and supporting this discovery and execution process is what we do; and we witness clients achieving impactful, changed lives as a result.

LinkedIn ProFinder is an essential tool in showcasing the value we bring to our clients.  Having clients tell their stories about the intentional outcomes they have created in their lives is a powerful testimony to others who may feel stuck in a routine that is unfulfilling and unproductive.  Leveraging our extensive network on LinkedIn helps potential clients find and engage us to intentionally create a better life.

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Mosaic: The New Asymmetric World We Live In (#1)

Posted November 22, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change



This is the first in a series of three blog posts that may be of particular interest to mid to senior level executives who are frustrated in their efforts to facilitate change and achieve improved employee engagement. The posts cover our new asymmetric world and how we arrived here, the forces of change driving the “mosaic”, and once realized, suggestions on what to do about it.

There was a time when a standard approach to things almost worked. I say ‘almost’ because it was efficient and effective; just in a sub-optimal sort of way. The ‘information age’ swaggered in with the advent of computers, and data began its march to dominance. Once marketers began to collect and use data, they carved out targets for messages in demographic segments and blasted group offerings to them, hoping and praying for a 10% hit or close rate. Perhaps this is just another representation of the “spray and pray” methodology?

Today we are inundated with so much data from robot calling systems to search engine optimizers that we may pray for relief from all the “noise” and virtual privacy invasion. The true meaning of things gets distorted by ‘instant’ messaging, texts, tweets, and opinion pieces that often become perceived facts, even though unvalidated.

Disruptive technology has given the individual a ‘voice’ and public platform to offer their point of view to the masses. The predictions of Marshall McLuhan that the “medium is the message” have come full circle. Whether one likes the result or not, being relevant and addressing the needs of individuals is paramount to succeeding.

How did we get here?

When our ancestors began to move away from hunting and gathering to providing products and services for others, one typically learned a “trade” and spent time learning it from a mentor who was an expert. As the Industrial Age dawned, focus shifted away from apprentices and craftsmen to efficiency and standardization. In order for the economy to grow, goods and services had to be manufactured quickly and distributed to the masses at an affordable price. Frederick Taylor helped hone mass production techniques into producing goods at an economy of scale that made them affordable and available to all for consumption. Quality was still important, but secondary to production cost and speed to market. Time and motion studies, along with scientific management techniques created hierarchical command and control management structures to facilitate efficiency and quality. Workers were trained to be machine-like and work on small, repetitive tasks in order to produce products at the highest quality at the lowest cost. Competition became fierce, and differentiating products became more difficult as they became commodities that competed on the lowest price. This approach devalued the employee and presented significant labor challenges as people felt they were treated as cogs in a wheel. Empowerment and individual initiative took a back seat to production.

Customers were not treated much better. Henry Ford stated in his 1923 autobiography that the Model T was available in any color one wanted, as long as it was black. That was the prevailing attitude toward customers at the time. Whenever demand exceeds production, the customer has little influence.

However, eventually production and availability exceeds demand, and age of the customer arrives as more choices are presented through increased competition. Customers want different product features and colors. Burger King’s slogan of “have it your way” may come to mind. In manufacturing circles, the concept of mass customization emerges, where products are customized to individual lot sizes of one, while retaining the economy of scale and quality attributes. Speed to market comes through enhanced production capabilities, and when a product is customized, specifically to individual customers, slightly longer lead times are more easily tolerated. For example, the Mars Chocolate company will actually personalize M&Ms with specific colors and text with their online configurator, then ship them out to the customer. Witness the way Apple releases its products, and how some customers actually camp out at the store overnight to be one of the first to have the latest cool gadget. Delivery of marketing campaigns and advertising has become very sophisticated, as companies use online tools to capture consumer behavior patterns in efforts to understand customer needs at an individual consumer level.

As distasteful as the topic may be, even fighting wars is changing. Military readiness used to be defined by massive human deployments on a battlefield, prevailing with overwhelming force. Today, military readiness is defined by adaptability and resilience as asymmetric threats are assessed and addressed far from the battlefield with technological tools and weapons connected to satellite imagery. Global terrorism is increasingly difficult to discover and defeat due to massive social media recruiting of disaffected and angry confederations of individuals who want to take their personal brand of hatred to martyrdom. One-size-fits-all approaches to defeat asymmetric threats are likely to fail.

Summary Points:

Trying to engage individuals and rise above the noise in our hyperactive global social media environment is nearly impossible unless you are timely and relevant.
The Industrial model with its standard approach is no longer effective because it isn’t personally relevant.
Standardization morphs into individualization in the new mosaic.
The next post describes the forces of change in the external environment that are driving the mosaic. Let me know how this content resonates with you. I will be pleased to respond to your comments online. Thanks!

Bob Thames is the founder of Pathways to Transformation LLC. He helps teams and individuals discover their natural talents and take actions to lead more fulfilling and authentic lives. He is the principal author of Chasing Change: Building Organizational Capacity in a Turbulent Environment, by John Wiley & Sons. +1 (931) 210-4690



Mosaic: The New Asymmetric World We Live In (#3)

Posted November 22, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change



This is the third post in a series of three blog posts that should be of particular interest to mid to senior level executives who are frustrated in their efforts to facilitate change and achieve improved employee engagement. The posts cover this new asymmetric world and how we arrived here, the forces of change driving the “mosaic”, and once realized, some suggestions on what to do about it.

Ok. There’s a mosaic! So what does that mean for me?

If you have made it to this point in these blogs, you’re probably wondering what to make of all this: “What, specifically, does this mean to me, and what can I do?” Here are a few thoughts:

  1. Deeply understand who you are. Know how and why you bring value to this world. You were created for a purpose and the sooner you latch onto that, the more fulfilled your life will be. Stop trying to be someone you are not—be authentic. Ask yourself: What does it cost me to be out of alignment with my soul?
  2. Know your place. None of us was created to be everything to everyone. We can only use our authentic talents to help certain people—our “tribe”. Know who they are, where they hang out (both physically and on social media), and meet them there one-to-one.
  3. Stay relevant. It’s so easy to get complacent and want to catch our breath and relax. Some of that may be necessary to recharge and restore, but you certainly don’t want to live there! Be curious, read and learn; build on what you already have. Don’t get stuck in the past, or stretched too far out into the future. Ask yourself two questions: What can I learn from someone else today? What can I teach?
  4. Challenge yourself. Don’t be satisfied with the status quo. Where possible, experiment with new paradigms and approaches. The worst that can happen in many cases is that you will learn something. (A gentleman I worked with years ago at IBM comes to mind. At the beginning of each month, he switched hands—everything from writing to eating to sports, he made it a point to switch. He said that it kept him in balance.)
  5. Be agile and adaptable. Don’t get caught up in a fixed mindset. Change provides opportunities—if it didn’t, we would stagnate. Celebrate your uniqueness and take it to the world!
  6. Visualize your mosaic. Cultivate more relationships where you can add your specific talents and passions into the mix. Take that relevancy to your tribe and take note of the difference you make in others’ lives, and the difference it makes in yours. Relationships are your currency in a one-on- one world. One of the greatest ‘relators’ in history was Jesus Christ. In the Bible, out of the 40 people he directly helped, he went to 34 of them individually, while only 6 came to him.
  7. Be vigilant. The only way change can catch you by surprise is if you are unaware. Stay focused and remember that things are constantly changing. Use the PESTEL model to ground your thinking as you periodically assess the state of your life and your career. A quarterly assessment of your goals and dreams can pay enormous dividends and give you a sense of control over the things you can change and where to adapt to the things you cannot control.

Let me know how this content resonates with you. I will be pleased to respond to your comments online. Thanks!

Bob Thames is the founder of Pathways to Transformation LLC. He helps teams and individuals discover their natural talents and take actions to lead more fulfilling and authentic lives. He is the principal author of Chasing Change: Building Organizational Capacity in a Turbulent Environment, by John Wiley & Sons.

Mosaic: The New Asymmetric World We Live In (#2)

Posted November 22, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change


This is the second post in a series of three blog posts that should be of particular interest to mid to senior level executives who are frustrated in their efforts to facilitate change and achieve improved employee engagement. The posts cover this new asymmetric world and how we arrived here, the forces of change driving the “mosaic”, and once realized, some suggestions on what to do about it. (If you missed the first post, find it on this site in a separate blog post.)

Forces of change shaping diversity and individualism

External forces are interdependent and continually at work in our world, whether we are aware of them or not. One helpful lens on viewing these forces of change is the PESTEL model:

Political. These are the changes that emanate from the communities we live in, and impacts are now global in reach. Whether it’s race relations, acceptance of different values and religions, or advancement of our societies, political forces are always present. And much of the division in American society has come from this force, as value systems collide and respect for differing beliefs disintegrates. Disenfranchisement is the latest term for the political and economic exclusion that many people are feeling. This is just fancy word for irrelevant.

Economic. Impacts from this attribute are now felt worldwide. When one country’s economy falters, the ripple is international in scope. Our economic well-being is a fragile global web. When the survival needs of people are tenuous, dysfunction follows.

Social. These attributes are interdependent and influence each other greatly. Each succeeding generation will bring its own talents and desires to bear in their efforts to make our world a better place for us all. Each will attempt to put its own stamp on life as they know it and desire it to be. Social media has provided an empowerment vehicle for humans to express their opinions and promote action, both helpful and destructive.

Technological. This one factor has had an enormous impact on life as we know it. The advancement of tools for global connection with smart phones and the backbone of the internet reinforce individualization and at times, isolation. Like anything else, these gadgets can be used for good or evil. Unmanned drones can deliver packages or missile payloads, depending upon how they are programmed.

Environmental. Depending upon one’s political preferences, various theories abound about how to regulate the care of the one planet we occupy. Regardless, we could all likely agree that we need to be better stewards of the resources entrusted to us, both collectively and individually. Scarce resources will not last forever if we don’t put some thought behind how to take care of our environment.
Legal. Governmental institutions continue to legislate standards designed to protect individual and collective rights, yet an environment of political correctness (perhaps) does more to cause divisiveness than integration, understanding, and acceptance of values.

Again, each of these factors impacts the other. They are all connected, just as we all are in this world.

Let’s look at one example, the rise of home schooling as an alternative to an education system that some believe is not serving our country. The predominant mindset in the schools in America is standardization: teaching core curriculums for the masses, and measuring knowledge retention. Certainly a fundamental foundation of knowledge is an important launching pad for any aspiring student, but education should not stop there. Discovery and application of individual talents and interests are compromised in a one-size-fits-all mindset. Parental guidance in many cases takes a back seat to survival and making a living. When students’ interests are not encouraged and promoted, boredom ensues and national intellectual treasures are diminished. The absence of methods to learn critical thinking skills homogenizes students to the lowest level, as opposed to aspiring to the highest.

Home schooling and special education programs are an attempt to avoid some of the pitfalls described above. It is certainly more of an individualized approach to learning, which can be difficult to achieve in a standardized environment. The proactive involvement of parents in that approach to education provides an emphasis not only on the learning, but core values embraced by a child’s parents. Again, this can be good or bad, depending upon the example set.

According to Dr. Susan Berry, 1 “Newly released data from the U.S. Department of Education shows that between 2003-2012, the number of American children between ages 5 to 17 who are homeschooled has risen 61.8 percent.”

So what’s the point? It’s my opinion that this type of education, coupled by the enablement of technology delivering education on demand, further drives a mindset of individualization away from standardization. It makes me also wonder if these factors have influenced the fundamental differences we see in the Millennial generation as compared to older generations.

A Gallup study 2 in May, 2016 suggests that the roughly 73 million millennials born between 1980 and 1996 want a lot of the same things that previous generations wanted. However, there are some definite differences that point to attitudes and preferences on a more individual level. In addition to steady employment and financial stability, they also want a purposeful life with social and community ties:

Only 29% are engaged in their jobs, and thus are “unattached” in terms of loyalty to a company or brand.

They are highly “connected” to the world around them through technology—71% say the Internet is their main source for news and information.

Millennials are serious about pushing for change in the world and do not accept the status quo as gospel. They are an optimistic and idealistic group of people who want to learn and grow. Personal development is a key criteria for them in a job. They want to know how their purpose and career fits in with jobs, teams, and companies.

So whether you call it a tapestry, symphony, or something else, things have changed. The water ballet of yesterday as a metaphor for change is passé. Whereas teams of people used to come together to execute a pattern and accomplish a task, today the analogy is more like a kaleidoscope or mosaic as differences are valued more than uniformity and groupthink. Sometimes the beauty that lies within the mosaic scape cannot be seen close up—you have to take a step or two back to see the whole picture and how things integrate.

Summary Thoughts:

  1. Millennials approach the workplace with the mentality, “What’s in it for me?” (Gallup Study)
  2. A one-size-fits-all approach is quickly becoming irrelevant, and sub-optimal at best.
  3. True diversity has little to do with race, religion, or political persuasion. It has everything to do with being open to other perspectives; and, as appropriate, learning and adapting to create synergistic alternatives. Get outside your box!

The next post in this series will offer some suggestions of potential actions for you and your organization, given the new reality. Your comments are welcomed!

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Bob Thames is the founder of Pathways to Transformation LLC. He helps teams and individuals discover their natural talents and take actions to lead more fulfilling and authentic lives. He is the principal author of Chasing Change: Building Organizational Capacity in a Turbulent Environment, by John Wiley & Sons.


Posted November 22, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change


The idea behind the title of our book Chasing Change came to me in 2007, as I was wondering if the onslaught of change ever diminished or slowed down. It occurred to me then, and it has been validated many times hence, that change is always a couple of paces ahead of our desired and required capabilities to adjust to it. And change is changing! Just when you thought there couldn’t be more turbulence and disruption in the world, along comes another challenge. Would we truly want it any other way?

Most of us don’t thrive on change because it’s unsettling. After a stressful period of pulling ourselves through yet another transition, we typically look for a quiet corner where we can rest and recharge. That may be appropriate and even necessary; but it’s helpful to understand that when we are there we are in stasis—we are not moving. That does not hold true for change itself though. It never stops moving or slows down—in fact its volume and speed is often logarithmic in nature.

Whether your intention is to thrive or merely survive depends entirely on the mindset you bring to the change, and whether you see it as a threat or opportunity. Carolyn Dweck, author of Mindset describes two types of individuals:
Those who possess a fixed mindset believe that they are endowed with a specific amount of intelligence and that the personality and character qualities you have are carved in stone. Folks like this tend to have a tendency to prove themselves over and over. They have little interest in improving, due to a belief that they have learned all they need to.
Those who possess a growth and development mindset believe that basic qualities can be developed and cultivated through personal efforts, and that the fate life has dealt them is only a starting point. They believe everyone can grow and change with experience.

So once we get our minds around being intentional with change, it helps to understand the nature of change itself. Change used to be simpler—but like I said, change is changing. There are essentially three types of change, and they map well to approaches for implementing change.
Incremental change—changes that are fairly straightforward, just tweaking a process or making a few changes around the edges to improve efficiency or effectiveness. Most business process reengineering is incremental change; linear in nature, and managed.
Transitional change—changes that require an organization or individual to move from a current state (what is in the here and now) to a future state (what we would like it to be). This type of change is also linear, and can be managed and controlled.
Transformational change—changes that seem to come out of nowhere and are chaotic and quite disruptive. This kind of change is a fundamental restructuring—caterpillar to butterfly metamorphosis—and is rare and much higher risk. The end state reached is completely different than initiated in the current state. Transformational change is the area of change that cannot be predicted with confidence or managed with traditional change management approaches.

The majority of changes are driven by forces external to an organization and individual. The change-resilient organization or individual will be continuously scanning the external environment for opportunities and threats to the current state. Minimal trending areas to evaluate are political, economic, social, technological, environmental, and legal impacts. These external forces drive requirements for change responses that can be destructive to those who are not prepared to be swift and resolute.
In today’s environment, the volume and speed of change opportunities and threats have in many cases forced a transformational change response. Defining and implementing transformational change requires a deeper understanding of what is going on. With incremental and transitional change, the attending factors may be complicated, and addressed on sequential and/or parallel paths. Transformational change is by its nature complex, and the approaches that may have worked with linear change fail in this type of challenge.

General Stanley McChrystal, U. S. Army Commander in Iraq and Afghanistan, in his book Team of Teams, advises steering clear of the reductionist scientific management approaches espoused by Frederick Winslow Taylor. The push for cost savings on factory floors by breaking tasks down to the lowest common element may have worked well in a linear environment where workers were given explicit instructions in a command-and-control structure. However, in an environment that is complex, where change is emergent and cannot always be controlled, previous approaches are too slow to be effective in responding due to bureaucratic delay.

The key to responsiveness when confronted with transformational change requirements is found in an adaptive change approach. Since the future cannot be precisely predicted, building adaptive capabilities and resilience is critical to respond quickly, collaboratively, and effectively.

Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey, in Immunity to Change suggest that adaptive leaders possess the following characteristics, and are:

  • successful at changing both their mindset and behavior, rather than changing one and hoping the other will follow
  • focused observers of their own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors as sources of information
  • aware that changes to their mindsets are always in the direction of seeing and feeling greater possibilities
  • able to take measured risks based upon fact-based data
  • experiencing greater mastery, options, and exercising wider control through empowering others

Ronald Heifetz, Alexander Grashow, and Marty Linsky, in The Practice of Adaptive Leadership provide a few more character attributes of the adaptive leader:

  • they distinguish between technical (complicated) and adaptive (complex) challenges
  • they harness conflict as an engine of creativity and innovation
  • they think experimentally to enable discovery and corrective action
  • they understand that people fear change when loss is involved
  • they continuously maintain a detached ”balcony” view by stepping back to observe
  • they focus on the long run/end-game by staying connected to purpose

So I have packed quite a bit of change theory into these short two pages. Is this typical of your experience? Do you agree that transformational and adaptive change is predominant? Will there be any new actions you take as a result of this new understanding?

Pathways to Transformation, LLC is a consulting and coaching company that helps individuals and organizations find their authentic leadership calling and walks alongside them as they navigate the changes and challenges of life and careers.


Posted November 22, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Personal Change


Over the last few years, it would be difficult to miss the number of T-shirts, coffee cups, and other objects that have the words “KEEP CALM AND…” emblazoned across them. Heaven knows that we certainly need to keep that theme in mind in these times of divisiveness and political polarization. With some intentional effort we can calmly move from a collision of values toward respecting one another and the absolute right to craft and support our own individual values.

Social media has provided a platform for many to focus their attention and proclaim what really matters to them personally. Centuries ago, before technology gave us these capabilities, folks used to “shout it from the rooftops” and the town crier was the primary form of public communication. Today they just shout out over social media, and at times the vitriol is more destructive than uplifting.

With the plethora of sources of information available to us, it’s quite easy to aggregate lots of “evidence” that support our points of view on almost any issue. The insidious trap there is that we allow ourselves to believe these sources to be “truth”, especially when they align with our values. I have recently been tempted to back away from Facebook (which lately I have been referring to as “Farcebook”) because over half of the posts seem to be someone disrespecting someone or a set of values that are opposite their own. Like many things in life, social media can be a force for good or evil, depending upon how it is used.

Think about the last time you heard a beautiful vocal harmony. Harmonics itself is defined as an integral multiple of a fundamental frequency. What makes a beautiful harmony is the blending of different voices. Even when one voice is singing the same words and music, there is always some variation when repeated.

It’s time as a nation that Americans focus on the harmonies we can make together, rather than the disharmony we are seeing. That takes intention and courage. My values may not be your values, and that’s ok. We all bleed the same color. Let’s stand up for each other and roll up our sleeves to restore our country to be the centerpiece of prosperity and harmony in the world.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!


Pruning & Growth

Posted February 23, 2016 by Pathways To Transformation
Categories: Uncategorized


Assessing Our Lives

Some people just seem to have a green thumb, and everything they touch seems to prosper and blossom. My wife Carol is one of those folks. She has this daily practice of “dead-heading” the blooms that either aren’t going to make it, or there are just too many in one place. And her plants thrive!

I recently finished Necessary Endings, by Dr. Henry Cloud. It is a wonderfully instructive book, especially for folks like me who try to do too many things simultaneously and end up disappointed because I cannot seem to get them all done. In the second chapter of the book, Dr. Cloud suggests that “pruning is a process of proactive endings”. While I never thought about it much, he tells us that rose bushes and other plants produce more buds than a healthy plant can sustain. In fact, in order for the plant to thrive, systematic pruning has to be done to remove dead or dying buds and branches in order to nurture the plant and optimize its growth.

Using the rose bush as a metaphor for our lives, Dr. Cloud suggests that we assess our lives and prune away whatever is “unwanted or superfluous”—whatever may be getting in the way of us achieving what we desire.

I thought our “paperless society” was going to help end the age-old battle against clutter, but it has only made it worse! Like pruning, Marie Kondo shares her method of de-cluttering in The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Her advice is: if it doesn’t spark joy in your life, get rid of it!
In the executive coaching I have done over the years there is so much value in examining the gap between who you are and who you want to become. Trying to be who someone else wants you to be, and working against your natural grain is like expecting a beautiful rose bush without paying any attention to pruning. Developing anything worthwhile is not easy: it requires discipline and diligence to do the necessary work.

Being authentically who you were created to be is one of the greatest privileges of life. When you play to your strengths and harness them to the things in life that you are passionate about, you can flatten the inevitable obstacles that come your way.

Get out the Pruning Shears!                                                   IMG_0915
Here are five things you can do immediately to move forward in the direction of the life you want to create:

  1. Do a little personal journaling to identify the things in your life today that are not buds that will blossom, or are dead or unhealthy branches. Also spend some time detailing the things that lift your spirit and align with your dreams, even if you don’t get around to doing them as often as you want.
  2. Rank the things you came up with in step one according to the following criteria:
    A: These are things I love to do and I am really good at doing them. Time is irrelevant when I am in the moment doing them. I am not doing them for someone else, I am blissfully doing them for me!
    B: These are activities I must do to pay the bills, maintain the lifestyle for my family, and serve others.
    C: These are actions that really have minimal payoff in my life, and typically are the last things I get around to accomplishing. Cut or prune them away and see if they are essential to your being or they have just become a habit you have managed to become comfortable doing over and over again.
  3. Have a frank conversation with the future self you are aspiring to become and decide which are the necessary endings that you need to make in order to revitalize your life.
  4. Take action—just do it!
  5. Keep track of your actions and evaluate your progress. You may have to bring back an activity or two, or re-rank them. This works best when you are doing a monthly or quarterly self-assessment.

Let me know how it goes!